Wednesday, 14 September 2016

RULE 47: Know the difference between the truth and the whole truth


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The Oniwoof Iwo, His Imperial Majesty,Oba Abdulrasheed  Adewale Akanbi 

Whilst we have ascertained that you ain’t never ever gonna lie and you don’t cover up for colleagues no matter what, you don’t have to be a goody-goody and tell tales.  You don’t need to volunteer information unless it directly helps you to do so.  Knowing that a colleague has cocked up doesn’t mean you have to run to the boss and rat on them.  Instead, it might be beneficial sometimes to stand back and watch how things develop.  If your colleague knows you know and you ain’t saying anything, there might be a favor being born there that could be recalled later.

And, of course, if you do get asked, you don’t lie.  But again know the difference between the truth and the whole truth.  Not lying is one thing, throwing up and regurgitating everything you do know is something else. Sometimes it pays to be a little editorial with what truth you are giving out.  The beauty of being a Rules Player is that you get on and are successful and you are still able to live with yourself – to be a thoroughly nice person.  This means you don’t cover up, but it also means you don’t spy on your colleagues, rat on them, betray them, stitch them up, shop them, grass them up or drop them in it.

Look, it’s a real world out there and it can be dog eat dog.  Be careful, there are some pretty unsavory characters.  There may be ruthlessness going on around you, but you don’t have to participate.  You don’t have to be a teacher’s pet either.  Keep your wits about you at all times and know when to spill the beans and when to shut the duck up.


“I guess you have to be a diplomat – knowing what to say and when to say it; martial arts expert – thinking on your feet; therapist – letting others bring their problems to you, but you keep yours to yourself”

I guess you have to be a diplomat – knowing what to say and when to say it; martial arts expert – thinking on your feet; therapist – letting others bring their problems to you, but you keep yours to yourself; and Zen master – all seeing,  all knowing, saying little.

So when someone asks for your opinion you have to weigh up what it is they are really asking.  Do they really want the truth?  Their report sucks.  Or a limited version of the truth?  Your report is fine; it’ll just about do the job.  A highlighted truth?  Your report is good but you have missed out quite a lot.  A re-assurance truth?  Your report is really good and I liked it, and I like you because your report is so good.  Or the real truth?  I haven’t had time to read it yet because I don’t like you and think it’ll be a pretty boring report – bit like you really.

 (Excerpts from THE RULES OF WORK by Richard Templer Read “How to cultivate support/contacts/friends” from The Rules tomorrow on Asabeafrika)

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