Thursday, 24 November 2016

Rule 73: Know when to keep your opinions to yourself


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Controversial Nigeri'a Ekiti State Governor, Peter Ayodele  Fayose 

It’s very easy to have opinion.  We all have them.  Trouble is knowing when to keep them to yourself and when to express them.  The reason most people don’t know when to shut up is that they think their opinion:

·                    Counts for something

·                    Has an audience
·                    Is important
·                    Will make a difference
·                    Will make them seem clever/intelligent/effective
·                    Will win them approval/love/attention.

All of these, of course, are the wrong reasons for expressing an opinion.  The real reason for expressing an opinion is because you have been asked to.  If you are asked, then say what you think.  If you ain’t been asked, then shut up.

Your opinion should almost have to be dragged from you.  What you have to say is important and you don’t squander your opinions willy-nilly. 


“THE REAL REASON FOR EXPRESSING AN OPINION IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN ASKED TO”.


You don’t run off at the mouth. You don’t sit there spouting opinion.  You do:
·                    Have an opinion ready for when you are asked
·                    Learn to express that opinion clearly and precisely and accurately
·                    Always make it sound as if your opinion isn’t just an opinion but the actual solution that will be implemented.

The way to make your opinion seem like an opinion and more like an accepted fact is to express it as a fact.  Don’t say, ‘I think we should’, instead say, ‘We should’.  Don’t say, ‘In my opinion the ZX300 is a good machine’.  Instead say ‘The ZX300 is a good machine’.

So avoid:

·                    I think
·                    I feel
·                    In my opinion

(Excerpts from THE RULES OF WORK by Richard Templer Read “The Science of Conciliatory Diplomacy” from The Rules tomorrow on Asabeafrika)


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