Rule 5: Know what counts and what doesn’t

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Ex-Kogi State Deputy Governor, Architect Yomi Awoniyi with wife, Elizabeth

Being here counts; being kind and considerate counts. Getting through each day without seriously offending anyone or hurting anyone counts; having the largest technology doesn’t.
Sorry, I don’t have a downer on technology. In fact, I probably have pretty much all the latest gizmos. I just (a) don’t overtly rely too much on any of it and (b) see them all as useful tools rather than having any intrinsic meaning in themselves, in a status symbol or one-up-personship kind of way.
Doing something useful with your life counts; going shopping because you are bored doesn’t. Yes, by all means, go shopping, but see what you do as counting or not counting, being real or not being real, having real value or not, being of some benefit or not. This does not mean chucking it all up and going off to some fly infested swamp to work with the locals and catch malaria—although that in itself would count, but you don’t have to go to quite those extremes to make your life meaningful.
Ex-Music Star, Chichi Onwuama aka Chichi of Africa
I guess the Rules means focusing on what is important, to you in your life, and making positive changes to ensure you feel happy with what you are dedicating your life to (See Rule 6). This doesn’t mean long-term plans mapped out to the smallest detail. It means knowing, roughly, where you are going and what you are doing. Awake rather than asleep. A fellow author, Tim Freke calls ‘lucid living’—a perfect term for what we are talking about. There are some things in this life that are very important and a whole lot of things that aren’t. It doesn’t take too much discrimination to works out which are which. And there are a whole lot more things that don’t count, aren’t really important, to chose from. I am not saying we can’t have trivia in our lives—we can and it is fine. Just don’t go mistaking the trivia for what is really important. Having time for loved ones and friends is important, watching the latest soap isn’t. Repaying a debt is important, what brand of washing powder you use isn’t. Nurturing our children and teaching them real values is important, dressing them in designer fashion isn’t. You get the idea. Think about what you do that counts and do more of it. 
(Excerpts from the Book: The Rules of Life by Richard Templar. Read Rule 6 in our next post on Asabeafrika)

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