Thursday, 26 May 2016

Why my Second Marriage crashed — Kojo Williams | Reveals secret of boyish look @ 57


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Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika...'I thought i knew enough of my second woman but she changed'
Kojo Williams is an extra-ordinary Nigerian personality. Gentle. Bold. Cultured.  Well mannered. He is one of the few Nigerians of the old aristocratic order who still maintains his candor without losing it to the whims and caprices of a free style society. As the scion of the family of the highly revered business man and sport icon, Late Chief S.B. Williams, Kojo is one of those few scions in the world who are able to create their own personality, living beyond the large shadows of their own father. As a former Nigerian Football Association boss and ex-CAF & FIFA board member, Kojo comes with lots of experience in football and general sports management. He is a rare Sports and Youth development expert and one talent that have not been espoused well by Nigeria as a country. Couple of year’s back, the Lagos born Kojo Williams lost his 24 years marriage to first wife, a dentist in the person of Dr. (Mrs.) Remilekun Williams. The marriage which produced four lovely children (Two boys and two girls) who are now all grown suffered a break and each went their separate ways. It was none of their making but realities of life beyond their comprehension made it happen.

Last year, the German trained fire engineer cum Sports enthusiast had a second marriage with United State of America trained Princess Isidora Adewunmi a second daughter of His Royal Majesty, Oba Michael Adeniyi Sonariwo, the Akarigbo of Remo Land in Ogun state-South West Nigeria. The wedding took place on Thursday May 21st inside Kojo’s massive Victoria Island, Lagos mansion. Princess Isidora Adewunmi, a half caste born by a Jamaican mother, Madam Joyce Adeniyi who is a British trained nurse and first wife of Oba Sonariwo was all what the former NFA boss needed to continue his adult life. But the story changed midway as Isidora, 45 and Kojo, 57 parted ways. In his first ever exclusive interview after the demise of the marriage, Kojo spoke to your Africa’s number one celebrity encounter blog, Asabeafrika and City People Magazine Publisher, Dr. Seye Kehinde. You will never read this exclusive elsewhere but first on Asabeafrika. Enjoy!


Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika....'I am very quite person, i love reading and i dislike the television'

Why I kept a low profile
Sir, you have been silent in the last couple of years, what have you been doing  to keep soul and body going?
Well, I have been doing a lot of things. I have got my businesses. I have got some projects in some other West African countries. I have got my investment projects in Europe; I do a lot of stock trades and all that. So, I have been doing my own business quietly both here and there. I just do my things and I am very happy with that.
3 dangerous things I don’t do again @ 57
What is the secret of Kojo William’s young looks; even at 57 you are looking quite younger than your age?
No, no, let me tell you something. If I say it you won’t believe but honestly, it is the grace of God because without the grace of God I cannot have good health. I can’t buy health. And I thank God that God is giving me good health and with the good health I can now take decisions on what to do; I know, ok, look, to take good care of myself, I have to eat well, I eat fruits more, I have to do exercise. Without good health I can’t go into the gym and train. I train four times a week. Intensive training, I kick boxes, I do my weight exercises and eat light food and I am a contented man. I am not chasing shadows, I am not going crazy.

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika...'I dont drink, i dont smoke and i dont womanize'

I don’t drink alcohol. I stopped drinking Champagne, I love drinking Champagne, and I stopped drinking my Champagne ten years ago. I am alcohol free. Without alcohol, everything comes free. So, I don’t drink alcohol and I don’t womanize. When you do that, it kills you as well. When you are sleeping around, you are a dead man. So, those things kill. Eat good food; eat well and engage in good exercise. And your spiritual life is very important. You have to have a very good communication strategy with your God, it doesn’t mean you have to start shouting in the street so that everybody knows you are worshiping God; you are praying and you are disturbing your neighbor. No, no, that is not worshiping. Your relationship with God is private and that alone makes you to radiate but the bottom line is His grace because if you don’t have grace you can’t have the health, you cannot eat, you cannot go to the gym and do exercise. So, God’s grace is what is keeping me young and I am very grateful to Him. You can’t buy peace, you can’t buy health and you can’t buy sleep. I sleep very well, I wake up, I look and I am happy. You can’t buy joy.

“I am not chasing shadows, I am not going crazy. I don’t drink alcohol. I stopped drinking Champagne, I love drinking Champagne, and I stopped drinking my Champagne ten years ago. I am alcohol free. Without alcohol, everything comes free. So, I don’t drink alcohol and I don’t womanize”
Kojo Williams with Princess Isidora Adewunmi

Why my 2nd marriage didn’t work…
Can you share the story of how your new partner swept you off with love?
My new partner, that question we have to leave alone because that one is for another day.
No, no, no, sir. I think it is a new thing, it is a leadership thing, it is something that will encourage a lot of young people; a lot of people find themselves in terrible emotional situation when it comes to marriage and this is a lady that just came into your life last year…?
My relationship with the lady has been stunted for a while, so, I am not going to say more than that.

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika...'I do a lot of businesses on the international level. I am not just quite'

But how was she able to arrest your heart knowing you as a very strong personality who does not suffer fools gladly?
Well, well, she had the qualities and she was able to come close but at times you just found out that, sometimes, women change. I wouldn’t want to say more than that. Yes, for her to be able to get me, she had her own qualities. But sometimes, women can be very funny, people change. So, you have to manage them.

“The most important thing is study your woman very well, study your woman. Spend a longer time, don’t rush into marriage. Take time, let’s be friends first. Know the mentality, understand her and take your time. Don’t enjoy the rush. When you say you want to marry, marriage is a very, very tough institution”

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika...'My Young look is as a result of God's grace in my life

How to marry a woman by Kojo Williams…
But why are marriages becoming short-liven these days, especially among celebrities?
The most important thing is study your woman very well, study your woman. Spend a longer time, don’t rush into marriage. Take time, let’s be friends first. Know the mentality, understand her and take your time. Don’t enjoy the rush. When you say you want to marry, marriage is a very, very tough institution. First thing is, be friend with the woman, know that woman very well. Because when you bring her inside the house, she can change or you too could change. But then if you are friends, it is a different ball game. First, friends; you could be friends for years. If you and a woman are friends, you are already there. The point is to understand each other, when you flick an eye; she understands where you are coming from, the key is friendship. It is always the opposite here, they marry for different reasons and when you now get in there, you are not friends. That is why when they are driving on Sunday, the woman will be looking to the right and the man will be looking to the left. When they are in church, they will be looking at different directions. But when you have a friend in her, you exchange ideas because you are always cracking jokes. You have fun together. You have to learn how to have fun; it is not just about sleeping with the woman. It goes beyond that.

A Caricature of Kojo and his family some 24 years ago

Kojo Williams with his first wife & their 4 lovely kids in France 25 years ago

What about raising children?
Raising children is a fantastic thing, it is great; and in friendship and in love, you raise your kids; in a very, very, very peaceful environment.
What Dad taught me about women…
What would you say you learn from your dad in the area of being generous and kind to the women folk?
Yeah, I learnt a lot from him, he was very good with women. Yeah, he had his own weaknesses but if you talk about being generous to women, he was extremely generous to women, not only to women but to everybody. He was a kind soul. He gave without pain, he loved humanity and in anything you do you have to love humanity. Of course, you need to love yourself if you don’t love yourself you can never love humanity. So, all those people that are busy stealing, looting and hiding, they don’t love themselves because if you love yourself, you give out, willingly because you exude what is in you, which is the love you give to people but if you don’t love yourself you can never give back to society. It is as simple as that; and that is when you look at people and they will say ‘This one should suffer, I am going to make this one suffer’ and then you become an oppressor. But when you love yourself, that love comes, it radiates from you and transcend to others.

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika....'Marriage is a very tedious institution'

Can we say you are practically single now?
Seye!!! (Shouts the name of City People Publisher who was at the table with this blogger)
No, we are just trying to guide against people speculating wrongly in town?
You just want to hear me say a word? Yes, officially, on paper I am married, is that not what you want to hear? On paper, I am married.
What about real life?
In real life, I am not married. I am separated, you want to hear that? Are you happy with that?

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika...'I attend parties not for food or drinks but to dance. I love to dance a lot'

Sir, I am confused, you left me more confused?
That is why I said I don’t want to talk about it.
Because last year we broke the story that you re-married (Both City People & Asabeafrika broke the story of Kojo Williams’ second marriage)
Yes, I did. I did. But it didn’t work, so, it is ok. It happens. But you take the lesson and you move away with it. Is that what you guys want to hear?
No, sir, we have just learnt something new about marriage and friendship
It is okay.

Anthony Adekojo Adesegun Williams

Kojo Williams with the GDA by his bar

I don’t do social media but…
You are also somebody who has been misunderstood over the years…
(Cuts in, referring to City People Publisher) But you know me very well; I have known you right before you set up your newspaper. When you were in The News Magazine, then you will dodge and come at night. So, I have known you or you want me to also tell you something about you (Laughter)

“I don’t go to party for drinks; I don’t go to eat, if I am welcomed, I dance. I can dance for forty five minutes non stop then I go home, have a shower and have a sleep. Socially, I love kids, I love being around children a lot. So, I spend a lot of time with kids, take them out, and have fun with them. They are angels; they are fun to be with”

Kojo Williams with the GDA in an earlier encounter

No, no, I am just asking for the sake of our readers?
So, I am telling readers too, that I know you; (laughter) so, we have come a long way, you know the kind of person I am. I am a very simple, very easy going person. I am very quite. As much as people think that I am an outgoing person. I am very, very private. Any woman that is around me knows that I am a very private person. I keep to my mood, yes; I am a bit of an extrovert. I don’t really party that much but I love dancing. If I go out I dance, I don’t go to club. I hardly go to parties. But if I go to your party, that person must be very special to me, and I always dance. I don’t go to party for drinks; I don’t go to eat, if I am welcomed, I dance. I can dance for forty five minutes non stop then I go home, have a shower and have a sleep. Socially, I love kids, I love being around children a lot. So, I spend a lot of time with kids, take them out, and have fun with them. They are angels, they are fun to be with. I do a lot of reading, I have time to do my reading, and I am a very private person. I love my quite time. I have my spiritual connect and I do a lot of reading. I am not a Television person. For me, television is total distraction, I will rather spend more time reading and meditating and I am okay. I don’t have so many friends but I have a lot of acquaintances because when you say somebody is your friend, that person must be very, very special to you. I have many acquaintances and I have some people that mean a lot to me. When I say ‘mean a lot to me’ they really mean a lot to me, those that really mean a lot to you are those that are always with you in time of trials, they stand by you, those are your true friends. I am not into any social media; I am not into all this media stuff. So, that is basically me.

The Sport Administrator with the GDA and Dr. Seye Kehinde of City People Magazine

I am a Rolls Royce Phantom…
Can you say age has equally mellowed you down?
Yeah, every time, if there is anything in life that measures you it is age; you will be very foolish to go on off when you get older. With old age you become a Rolls Royce. So, I am a Rolls Royce now, the Yorubas will say ‘Moto Ayokele’. So, I just glide. I don’t need to be rough, I am not a Ferrari.  I am a Rolls Royce combined with Bentley; in fact the Rolls Royce phantom is what I am. So, I am calmer. I don’t make too much noise. But anybody that comes close to you will enjoy those qualities you have. With age, with time, you are much calmer but those special attributes you have will never leave you.

Kojo Williams throws banters with the GDA inside his Lagos Island mansion
Kojo Williams in a rare pose with City People Publisher Dr. Seye Kehinde and Asabeafrika's Gbenga Dan Asabe
Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika...'Every man must sudy his woman before marrying her'

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