Wednesday, 17 August 2016

Rule 32: Don’t bitch

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Famous Nigerian Nollywood Actress, Mide-Funmi Martins 

Yep, life ain’t fair.  Sometimes colleagues shirk and you end up with extra work; bosses can be ill prepared for their jobs and as such are incompetent and often inconsistent; idiots get promoted all around you; there’s too much work to do; there are too many stupid systems in place; idiots thwart you at every turn.  It’s true, life’s a bitch.

Now tell me how moaning helps in any of these scenarios.  Tell me how moaning will change one single thing.  It won’t. It doesn’t.  Moaning is a time wasting device invented by sad people who haven’t enough work to do.  And they’re usually the ones standing next to the ones gossiping. They may even be the same ones – chances are they are.  And when they’ve finished having a good moan, they’ll have a good gossip.

“Moaning is a time wasting device invented by sad people who haven’t enough work to do.  And they’re usually the ones standing next to the ones gossiping”

Moaning is pointless.  It is unproductive and achieves nothing.  All it does is:
·                    Identifies you as idle, petty, trivial
·                    Encourages you to turn the corners of your mouth down – not attractive.
·                    Wastes time
·                    Makes you a magnet for other moaners
·                    Gets you a reputation as someone who doesn’t offer anything productive or helpful.
·                    De-motivates you and set up a vicious circle.

So, what are you going to do if you are a habitual moaner?  Easy, make sure that whenever you do moan you make yourself offer a solution to whatever it is you are moaning about.  If you can’t see a solution you aren’t allowed to moan. Try that for a few weeks and you’ll stop moaning quite naturally.


Bitching about others invariably takes place behind their backs.  Next time you feel the need for a good bitch about someone make yourself go and do it to their face.  If they aren’t present in the room, don’t do it.  Simple rule but it works. Once they are there you’ll stop bitching, it’s too hard to keep doing it when you’ve upset everyone in the office.  If you’ve got something to say, say it to their face (but do see the introduction to this rule first – Shut up! if you can’t say anything nice).

(Excerpts from THE RULES OF WORK by Richard Templer Read “How to Stand for others” from The Rules tomorrow on Asabeafrika)

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