Tuesday, 11 April 2017

7 different situations that make Nigerians commit Suicide + Why The Church & Government cannot help

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The GDA in The Other Room...

I had wanted to make this article a ‘Facebook comment’ but changed my mind because i wanted it on a larger platform for all and sundry to read and learn few tips.
Few days ago I promised to lend my own voice to the horrible suicide adventures going around in town among Nigerians. In the last couple of weeks and months, it has been one sad tale of suicide gesture or the other among Nigerians.
It started like a rumor last year, that people were actually jumping into rivers and lagoons to take their own lives over serious challenges of life which includes inability to pay house rents, inability to pay children’s school fees, inability to have a quality medical care or even enjoy a quality living standard and loss of jobs among many others. So people take their own lives abruptly just to save face from shame and boredom. What a misery?

The Sunday 19th March, 2017 suicide act of one Dr. Allwell Orji through the Lagos lagoon via the famous Third Mainland Bridge, brought everything to the open. His death caused public uproar and with that, many other incidences followed. The latest is the news of two Lagos women, Mrs. Taiwo Momoh and Mrs. Abigail Ogunyinka who tried taking their own lives between Thursday and Fridayof same week Dr. Allwell Orji successfully took his own by jumping into the Lagoon. While Mrs. Momoh, a fabric merchant was caught by the police while trying to jump into the Lagoon, Mrs. Ogunyinka a food vendor had already successfully jumped into the water before vigilant fishermen apprehended her and saved her life. The two women complained of being heavily indebted. While Momoh was said to have lost millions of Naira to some burue-de-change agents who duped her while trying to convert over N15 million for a transaction she made, Ogunyinka was indebted to the tune of N150, 000:00 to a micro-finance bank and couldn’t defray her debt. Both decided to escape by committing suicide.
The GDA talks to the Media
 The day Dr. Allwell Orji died, another woman was alleged to have jumped into the Canal View River in Maza-Maza area of Mile 2—Lagos and was equally rescued by vigilant fishermen. So, why are Nigerians committing suicide and what are the causes of such tragic acts?.
The new suicide culture in Nigeria…
The GDA & a Friend
Before  now, Nigerians were rated as one of world’s most happiest people by some international organizations. But that might not be the case any longer as daily occurrences of suicide acts have dampened the eligibility of that report. The most shocking aspect of it all is the fact that while Dr. Allwell Orji’s body was being searched for in the lagoon, by security agencies, another man’s body was found which was initially mistaken for Orji’s body until his family rejected it. The import of this is the fact that many other people might have been jumping into the lagoon a long while ago; and it was not until the Orji’s dilemma that the reality hit Nigerians.
Now, what is wrong with our values in a season like this? What are the things that we must change about ourselves in order to be safe from shock and anxiety? What exactly make people lose their sanity and chose death above any other solution?
1.     The Economy is not friendly: There has never been a terrible season like the 2016 & 2017 years when  people who didn’t cut their coats according to sizes got themselves messed up like a flat tire. Beyond the fact that Dr. Allwell Orji had a secret illness he battled in his life time, you couldn’t rule out economic pressure from some of the actions or inactions of suicide act victims. Some of them like the two ladies, Mrs. Momoh and Mrs. Ogunyinka were under severe economic pressure and there was no one to bail them out, not even government, the church or relatives. So people must know that the economy is not friendly this time around and live within their means instead of dabbling into bandwagon adventures.
2.     A Society without human compassion:
The GDA in a Society Without Compassion
The society we live today is the one that glorifies material achievements above any other achievement. If you are not rich, nobody sees you. It is the same thing in the church, the family and every other sphere of the society. People tend to smile at you when they see that you have little or plenty money to throw around. Even churches will never honor you with a title until it is glaring to them that you could fund some of their activities. The moment you can’t fulfil such imagined ‘status symbol’ again, you are dumped like a badly burnt piece of paper and emotion could just set in. So nobody cares for who you are by character but who you are by material wealth and that is why many people lose composure when society threats them like toilet roll.
3.     The Church hates to give but to take, take & keep taking:
The GDA & The Drummers
Today, when you step into an average church in Nigeria, before you can hear the preacher talk about giving out to people in need, you would have heard him talk about the need for the people attending worship to give out for ‘the church’s new building project, the church’s new fleet of vehicles or the church’s new auditorium and sundry other money-spinning projects’. He will never ask a question like ‘Please, if anyone of you is challenged in any area, could you kindly see brother so-so-so and so after the service or see our humanitarian department?’. All the Church keeps talking about is ‘Pay your tithe, pay your offerings, sow your seeds and bring more, more and more’. For instance, in her account, Mrs. Momoh the fabric merchant who wanted to jump into the third mainland lagoon claimed all her efforts to meet her Pastor at the Redeemed Christian Church of God parish where she worships proved abortive as the man kept dodging her and referring her to his deputy who couldn’t do anything. So she taught it well to take her own life since creditors were on her neck and there was no mercy coming from anywhere. She was indeed fed up with life as her christian family couldn’t even give her a leaning shoulder. These days, the church, despite her humongous financial wealth, lacks sympathy. They will rather build more universities with people’s offerings and bill everyone to death than give a helping hand to a dying sister or dying brother.
4.     Government can’t help you live happy:
The GDA and Happy Admirers
The Nigerian Government seems to be one of world’s most unapproachable government. No charity. No empathy. No sympathy. In Nigeria, every citizen is a government unto himself. You raise your own power, get your own water and work hard to live in a society where government does not regulate anything than the liberty to good and healthy living. In Nigeria, your landlord can wake up anytime and jerk up your rent to a humongous amount that even spirits can not meet up with, yet government has no agency to moderate such illogical gestures. Every tenant from Abuja to Lagos and elsewhere pay through their noses to live a comfortable life and in bad economic seasons like this, only genuine innovation and trust in God can salvage the people. In many cases, people who could afford two or three bed room flat in the past are now relocating to self contain apartments or a single bed room apartment. The government has no housing policy that could affect mass housing in order to make life easy for everyone. What about the private school owners?
They are another set of devils who make life so unbearable for citizens and even in a crazy economic season like this, school fees are still being jerked up with no government’s intervention to save gullible Nigerians from losing their sanity. So, the hear attack spree goes on.  
5.     CEOs can’t pay your salary:
Most employers of labour, either as a result of the fall in Naira or due to other economic variables have lost the will to pay staff  salaries at the end of every month. Many Nigerians in the banking, insurance and media sector are paid according to targets. They are given unrealistic targets that will make their month-end pay unrealized. Their organizations gives them un-meetable targets to be made in order to earn their salaries. This is quite rampart in the three aforementioned sectors of the economy. Most employers of labour are either down-sizing or right-sizing their work force in order to be able to meet up and even at that, things are not measuring up. Lot of job losers are now now roaming the street, with no other skill to survive the trying times. It is such a bad situation and could also lead to frustration and suicide acts.
6.     Sad friends everywhere:
The Media Industry is in disarray...
There is no difference between sad and bad friends. They have the tendency to make gest of their colleagues who fall on bad times. These kind of people wait for the slightest opportunity to make jest of you and they will not mind showing it to your face and even dumping your company or friendship during a hard season like this. Many of our people find such acts disgusting, and it could lead to acts that can warrant suicide action. In a society like ours, it is when things go smooth with you that you are count worthy as a ‘great friend’. But once things go bad, there is a way friends move out of your life in droves that will make you forlorn.
7.     It is your private problem:
The GDA & Friends

Once there is an emotional challenge, the problem is yours alone. But once there is surplus and opportunities, benefits spreads over to all around you including friends, relatives and the church. The Nigerian case is even worse that once you share your crisis with others, they begin to make you a boot of joke at gatherings. So like Jesus, if you are crossed, you hang alone as friends, family, disciples and the rest take a walk away from your life. In Nigeria, government seems to only make policies for the rich and comfortable. Policies that makes life convenient for them. Right now, commodities and consummables that directly affects the lives of the masses like milk, bournvita, millo, Quaker Oats and  other beverages and even insecticide brands including food stuffs have sky rocketed. Retailers accused the dollar rise for the killing price rise in commodities. But now that the dollar is going down, none of these commodities is going down but rather getting costlier. They have refused to come down with the dollar, thereby making life more difficult for the poor and average Nigerians. Yet, government has no major policy to arbitrate on those commodities in order to make life easy for all.
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Gbenga Dan Asabe

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